Phones, pictures and enjoyments

I have always been a very honest person sometimes more than what is good for me. By being honest you could hurt people’s feelings, I try to think before I say things but sometimes things come out wrong regardless how hard you try to be kind. This issue is something I see a lot online, where people share their opinions about others without thinking about it and clearly without caring how it comes across.

Judging people online
You can not like someone that is fine but why look for that person? Why associate with them? If you don’t like them, unfriend and unfollow them. Be nice to others online because there is no reason to be immature. Other people’s life shouldn’t make you angry. Something is going very wrong if that happens. That is an age thing as well. I mean “Maturing is realizing how many things don’t require your comment”.

The use of your phone
Have you ever been to a friend’s house or a restaurant or just a meet-up somewhere and that friend is on their phone the whole time? I have and I am pretty sure most of the people have.  It’s alright if you sit on your phone sometimes but if we are in the middle of a conversation it is simply not alright. Who is more important me or the person on your phone? Now sometimes I find myself getting caught up on my phone but if I am in a conversation I try to put it away as quickly as I can and you know what? If you are somewhere with someone and you have fun, you don’t have to be on your phone. I can sit in a restaurant with friends for hours and not once check my phone. I can have a whole shopping day and only use my phone to check the time.

Sharing pictures and sharing life
As I said in that other post, people share good moments not bad once so don’t compare your behind-the-scenes with someone else’s on-stage moments. The way we have become is horrible. Some people go very far to make it seem like they have a great life on the internet. You don’t always have to put everything online or make a picture of everything. I mean pictures are fun don’t get me wrong but did you have a better night because you put it on Facebook? No, you didn’t. Now of course you can share pictures of your life. I love to do that. I mean this coffee was amazing or I saw this nice plant or I made an amazing selfie or look at my freaking cute Starbucks cup it even has my name on it. It’s not wrong to share those things as long as it doesn’t take away the fun of the real thing.

What you shouldn’t do then?
I make one maybe two pictures of food and drinks. Is the picture terrible? That’s a shame. I do this because I will not eat or drink cold food/cold hot drinks. Now I don’t always take pictures of food. But I love to do it from time to time. It’s just sad when people go on holiday and the only thing they have to show for it is the pictures. Where are the stories?
* The time it was so hot in Pisa that you bought one of those umbrellas to find out it didn’t work and it was more to carry?
* Or that time you came to this scary-ass campsite that you even put the chairs in the trailer tent?
* Or that time in Italy when this Italian woman yelled at you because she was having her siesta?
* Or when you went on holiday and it was so cold you needed to go out and buy a heater.

I mean pictures are one thing. I have pictures from all those holidays but those pictures don’t say anything like that. Me and mum in front of the museum, doesn’t tell you she lost her sunglasses so we needed to go back in and hunt for them. A picture of my brother and I running towards the sea doesn’t tell you we fought about who was first and splashed each other with the ice-cold seawater to prove our point. A selfie with me and my dad doesn’t show that we were standing on Strawberry Lane at a tour of the Beatles that we both enjoyed.

Pictures don’t show you those fun moments. It’s hard to watch that nowadays people are busier with taking pictures of fireworks, the stars, the sunset, or their pizza than enjoying the view or the company they have.

What I mean is that you should appreciate what you have. Yes, you can take a picture of something you like or find beautiful but don’t forget to stand still and appreciate it and look at what you have. At the end of the day sharing your life online is alright as long as you don’t forget to live life. To do things because you want to do them and not because it looks good on the internet.

Lots of love, Melissa